"Ma'am, he/she does not listen to us only, Can you tell him/her ...........". This is one of the most common complaints that we have heard at PTM's. Me and Manisha have also faced this issue. We started making a deliberate effort to divide the sphere of influence. For ex - If Unnati has any doubts academically, before resolving her doubt, we ask her what her teacher has told her. Then we encourage her to clear her doubts at school with the teacher.
It is very easy for us to go to google and answer her queries,but we dont want to create any confusion in her mind. We dont want to get to a situation where she is stuck between, what the teacher said and what her dad said.
Slowly and steadily she has become more comfortable in asking doubts freely. Now she also understands that she needs to clear her doubts in school only. The best comment we got in one of the PTM's was from her Maths teachers - "She does not let me leave the classroom , till I have cleared her doubt".
It is difficult to create this distinction and we need to be a team to work towards it. Children's relationship with their parents is typically more personal and emotional than their relationship with their teachers. Parents often have to fulfill multiple roles in their children's lives, including disciplinarian, caregiver, and emotional support, which can make it challenging for them to maintain an objective and authoritative relationship with their children.
In contrast, teachers have a more focused and professional relationship with children, which can make it easier for children to see them as authority figures. Additionally, teachers have a clear role and responsibility to educate and guide children, which can help establish clear expectations and boundaries.
It's not always the case that children listen to teachers more than parents. However, in some situations, children may appear to listen to their teachers more than their parents for a few reasons:
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Respect for authority figures: Children often view teachers as authority figures who are there to help them learn and grow. They may feel more obligated to listen to their teacher's instructions or guidance because they see them as a professional figure in a specific role.
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Different communication styles: Teachers may communicate with children differently than parents. Teachers may have more experience in communicating with children in a way that is engaging, educational, and easy to understand.
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Emotional attachment: Children may have more emotional attachment to their parents than teachers, which can cause them to feel more comfortable testing boundaries or pushing back against their parents' instructions.
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Children often spend a significant amount of time with their peers, and this can influence their behavior and attitudes. Teachers are often seen as role models, and children may be more likely to listen to them because they want to impress their peers or be seen as good students.
Overall, it's important to remember that every child is different, and their relationships with their teachers and parents can vary. Building strong relationships with children based on mutual trust and respect can help to improve communication and understanding between children and the adults in their lives.
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